Amanda6′s #CBR4 Review 46: The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker
A date won’t take “no” for an answer. The new nanny gives a mother an uneasy feeling. A stranger in a deserted parking lot offers unsolicited help. The threat of violence surrounds us every day. But we can protect ourselves, by learning to trust—and act on—our gut instincts.
In this empowering book, Gavin de Becker, the man Oprah Winfrey calls the nation’s leading expert on violent behavior, shows you how to spot even subtle signs of danger—before it’s too late. Shattering the myth that most violent acts are unpredictable, de Becker, whose clients include top Hollywood stars and government agencies, offers specific ways to protect yourself and those you love, including…how to act when approached by a stranger…when you should fear someone close to you…what to do if you are being stalked…how to uncover the source of anonymous threats or phone calls…the biggest mistake you can make with a threatening person…and more. Learn to spot the danger signals others miss. It might just save your life.”
I have heard a lot of recommendations of this book online, recommendations that are particularly directed at women. The pitch is pretty well covered in the description I grabbed from Amazon. I’ll just add that the book is broken into several sections that cover a range of possible violent or threatening situations, and the steps that we can take before those situations even occur, such that we can attempt to prevent them. One of De Becker’s main arguments is that though people tend to feel that violence is unpredictable, in a lot of cases, there are several warning signs that people ignore because they don’t trust their own intuitions. De Becker’s goal here is to help people distinguish between helpful fear and irrational worrying, to hone our instincts and recognize potentially dangerous individuals or situations.
His advice here was sound, and I definitely learned some things. Sometimes the writing gets a little repetitive and hokey, and I think the book could have benefited from another round of editing for style. But overall, this was a worthwhile read for me, and there is some valuable insight in here that could be beneficial to others.